The Mom Pledge.

About a week ago I stumbled across this hashtag on Twitter: #themompledge

That led me here, where I read The Mom Pledge and felt a “duh” rise up inside of me.

I am a proud Mommy Blogger. I will conduct myself with integrity in all my blogging activities. I can lead by example.

I pledge to treat my fellow moms with respect. I will acknowledge that there is no one, “right” way to be a good Mom. Each woman makes the choices best for her family.

I believe a healthy dialogue on important issues is a good thing. I will welcome differing opinions when offered in a respectful, non-judgmental manner. And will treat those who do so in kind.

I stand up against online bullying. My blog is my space. I will not tolerate comments that are rude, condescending or disrespectful.

I refuse to give those who attack a platform. I will remove their remarks from my blog with no mention or response. I can take control.

I want to see moms work together to build one another up, not tear each other down. Words can be used as weapons. I will not engage in that behavior.

I affirm that we are a community. As a member, I will strive to foster goodwill among moms. Together, we can make a difference.

Mommyhood is sometimes so much like high school–or even middle school–that it is truly ridiculous. Heartbreaking. Shameful. Remove real-life’s faces, and add the ability to hurl insults practically at the speed of light, and you have the blogosphere. Too often it is a virtual playground centered around building the like-minded up and tearing any who dare differ to shreds.

Let’s not do that anymore.

Let’s not do it on the internet. Let’s not do it on the playground. Let’s not do it in life. As awareness of bullying in childhood and adolescence is raised, let’s look further. Bullying reaches far beyond the schoolyard. Capitalism is a bullying system. Patriarchy relies on the bullying of women. Racism is bullying based on skin color.

The Mom Pledge is about bullying between mothers, who blog, on blogs. But that is just a small slice of life. Our society needs to take a long-overdue step in a less hostile direction. This is a step that can start with you, with me, with us. How we treat each other, talk about each other, refer to each other, and if we respect each other. The choice is ours to make, and make often.

And the thing about moms is that, like most humans, we are so much more alike than we are different. Seriously.

3 thoughts on “The Mom Pledge.

  1. This is so fabulous! Let’s NOT do that anymore! And you’re right, Mommy Bloggers are just a tiny little part of it. But we have to start somewhere. This is where I decided to start. Thank you so much for your support of The Mom Pledge. I think your post totally rocks, and you are a shining example of someone who blogs – and lives – by its principles. Shine on!

  2. It’s so sad that Mommyhood has turned into a competition for who can be the better parent. We’re so conditioned to compete with each other now that even advice and information can be completely taken the wrong way. I was talking to a friend who is the proud adoptive mother of a beautiful baby boy the other day. He has a lot of the same health issues my oldest had, so I was sharing stories. She thought I was belittling her kids-you know, mine are sicker, mine have done more, etc. Totally not what I was doing, but it was an excellent wake-up call to the piranha like nature of the mothering community.

    There’s also a certain amount of personal insecurity involved. Having kids is hard. We live in fear of being the bad parents whose kids wreak havoc on society before spending the rest of their lives behind bars, writing books about how badly we screwed them up. So telling someone they’re a “bad mother” is hitting below the belt. I love that there are people out there who are willing to say enough is enough and treat each other with respect!

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